Dear Advisor: Why haven’t I heard from you?


The following is part of Blueleaf’s The “Dear Advisor” Campaign, encouraging open collaboration and service innovation in the financial industry like never before.

Letters are submitted by members of the general public who, at all stages of life, have an honest message to share with you. Let’s redefine what “value to my client” means.

Adam_sigelAdam Sigel lives in Brookline, MA with his wife and dog. He currently works as a product manager at InsightSquared—his third startup in as many years—following 5 years of corporate management consulting. He recently turned 30, but he’s essentially been 30 for the past 6 years. Adam enjoys running, baking, drumming, and engaging with brands through social media.


Dear Advisor,

It’s been ages since we’ve spoken. Why haven’t I heard from you? Is it something I did? Something I didn’t do?

I’ve tried to make all the right choices but you’re just so cold, there’s no way to know what you’re thinking. I just want to talk to you. Do you think this relationship is going anywhere? Do you ever worry that maybe we’re not the right people for each other? I’m looking for someone I can spend the rest of my life with. I want someone I can introduce my friends and parents to, and be proud.

I know this may fall on deaf ears, but I want you to know I’m thinking it: you complete me. Look, no one really knows how many years they have on this earth, or where life will take them, but I’d feel so much safer taking that journey knowing that you were there with me. I want you there for the highs and the lows. I want you to be there for my first child. I want you to be there when I send her off to college. I want you there when a Nigerian prince steals half my net worth. I want you to be there for my last day at work, and the golden years of retirement that follow.

If you want to make this work, I need a sign. Tell me: am I trying too hard? Am I worrying too much? Not enough? Have I done everything I can?

I really hope we can work this out.

I’m too afraid to go it alone,



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